Neil, you are correct. Weight
Neil, you are correct. Weight does not scale. The really frustrating part would be to determine weights by volume of different substances. I tried this on here with others having a spirited debate. I suspect that you already came to the same conclusion as I did the way to find the answer to your particular situation is to experiment.
In my case I did that adding weight till I reached a given performance point for my freight cars. I was not setting out to limit the performance of my locomotives. My goal was to have no cars that "vibrated" down the tracks while rolling along. I wanted to run prototype length trains with out string lining on curves. I wanted to be able to back up a train and put them into the yard. When backing all the cars needed to stay on the track.
Fortunately for me my first cars were open top hoppers in different lengths. I was able to add steel nuts till I got to a point that trains of 100 cars or better could back up with out issue. My starting point was to get to 160 car trains that the C&O ran across the state of OHIO.
My experiment showed that I could run 187 car trains with no derailments forward around the layout up and down grades very reliably. I stopped at that point as I ran out of freight cars. The added weight was between 1 and 2 oz over the NMRA standard for HO cars.
One other thing I found was trains that were shorter, typically under 40 cars worked fine at the standard weights in HO scale on our club layout. I suspect sharper curves and steeper grades would shorten this length of train a bit.
I was also quite surprised regarding pulling power of the trains. A test regarding the atlas Trainmaster locomotives regarding pulling power in MR magazine showed them to be capable of pulling 60 cars on straight and level track. They also seem to be able to pull this same amount or better up curving grades that peak over 2%. I suspect that tuning the rolling stock also increases the pulling power, at least in HO scale. I also tuned the locomotives.
Because of my initial impressions with improved performance after tuning my locomotives and freight cars. The first thing I do is disassemble all equipment and get it to my standards of rolling qualities and weight with rolling stock, and clean and lube all locomotives and make sure all portions are assembled properly. One of the guys teases me about this all the time.
I was quite interested to find out that the recommended practices were developed by the early 60s in another post. I suspect that the guys doing it did not have the plastic trucks that we now have. I am also wondering if we now have better wheels also. Since we now have 5 decades of product development since the time of the recommended practices I think the best way to find things that work in a given situation is to experiment, starting with the recommended practices and going from there.
The other thing that seems to be very beneficial in modern times is the sharing of info over the web. By finding someone with similar goals and operating parameters it is possible to greatly shorten the experiment and testing phase to find something that works for ones situation. I know this saved me from lots of dead ends when developing my standards for performance.