joef

I've had a lot of distractions from doing the hobby in the last few months, not the least of which is finding my birth parents (I'm adopted).

I've also been enjoying some of the hobby by being on the road shooting layout tours -- I've just not been working on my own layout much.

FINDING MY BIRTH FAMILY
The whole thing started last October when my two kids approached me and pleaded with me to consent to finally finding my birth mother. I was told I was adopted from my very earliest memories and I always felt that made me special. I would tell the other kids at school -- hah, they *had* to take you, but I was picked!

At age 18, my adopted mom gave me my adoption papers, and they had my birth mom's name, age, and signature. But to me my family consisted of those who raised me, not some name on a piece of paper. I also learned no one knew much about my father other than he was in the air force.

Anyhow, last October with the help of an expert friend of my daughters who knows how to research family history, in three days we had located my birth mother, now 85 and living in Michigan. I got her phone number and talked to her on the phone -- was that ever a kick!

Knowing also that I have been wanting to do a layout tour story on Bruce Chubb's layout in Grand Rapids, Michigan, I had the perfect opportunity to visit Michigan and combine business with visiting my birth mom.

Discussions with Bruce Chubb helped me set the date for the trip: May of 2019. So last week, I went on the road to visit Bruce Chubb's extensive Sunset Valley, document his model railroading museum project, and also shoot Andy Keeney's and Bob Truax's layouts.

THE MICHIGAN LAYOUT SHOOT
The first 5 days in Michigan consisted of shooting layouts, first Andy Keeney's, then Bob Truax, and finally 3 days at Chubb's. For Bruce, we captured a layout tour, an op session, and documented his model railroading museum project -- so we expect to get three video segments for Bruce.

Here I am at Bob Truax's scenic GN layout ...

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And here I am shooting Andy Keeney's massive triple-decked Nashville Line:

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And of course, Bruce Chubb's extensive Sunset Valley, which has 3 - 4 decks and some 10 railroads included, along with TWO CTC panels and five rail yards (not including staging). Almost 3000 square feet in all.

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MEETING MY BIRTH MOM IN MICHIGAN
Then this last weekend while I was still in Michigan, I finally got to meet my birth mom in person for the first time! She brought her photo albums, so I finally got to see some good photos of how she looked when she was younger.

First my mom as a young adult:
 
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Next, my mom at her age 50 birthday party. My mom was 5-11" during her prime, and she's the tallest one with the corsage in this pic:
 
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And finally, now at age 85, hunched over, and probably now 5-7" compared to my 6'-3" ...
 
I also got a long overdue hug and kiss from her!
 
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All in all, a very memorable week. I've only scratched the surface on the whole birth family revelations saga, and needless to say I've been very distracted since last October, and have done zilch on the Siskiyou Line.
 
But I think I've got a pretty good excuse!
 

Joe Fugate​
Publisher, Model Railroad Hobbyist magazine

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Deane Johnson

Thanks for sharing your

Thanks for sharing your personal information with us.  After awhile we all seem to turn into family members on forums like this.  I'm glad you decided to take the pathway to meet your birth Mother. As we age, we begin to realize that family is what life is all about.

I used to be sort of your neighbor.  I owned the radio station at McMinnville for 10 years in the 1980's.  It was the really neat Oregon Short LInes that got me started back into model railroading.

The layout shoots look pretty neat.  The scenery appears to be something to really look forward to seeing.

For some reason, I'm not getting the photos you posted of your Mother through the years.

Deane

From Joe: Birth mom photos fixed.

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Matt Forcum

Looking forward to the future!

Looking forward to the future of MRH and especially getting to see you build your layout from scratch! Thanks for sharing!

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hunter48820

the visit

Joe, it was really enjoyable meeting and being able to spend time with you last week. Bob Truax and I were both very happy and proud that our railroads were of the caliber that they will be presented on TMTV and on the pages of MRH. I also look forward to your indepth multi episodes of Bruce Chubb's fantastic railroad. Last but not least, I'm so happy that you found your mom and new family and had a chance to visit her. We hope to see you in the future when you again visit your mom and come and visit and document more of our great Michigan railroads. ????

Best, Andy Keeney

Always look out for #1 but don't step in #2

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Patrick Stanley

Congratulations Joe !

BEST FIELD TRIP EVER

Espee over Donner

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Michael Tondee

Very nice story Joe!

I suppose we can excuse your partial absence from the hobby for something so important. Just this once though, don't make it a habit!

Michael, A.R.S. W4HIJ

 Model Rail, electronics experimenter and "mad scientist" for over 50 years.

Member of  "The Amigos" and staunch disciple of the "Wizard of Monterey"

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wbmfishman

Your Journey

As a christian, I can say you were truly blessed with a great gift.  Wonderful. 

 

Wayne Mollohan

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joef

Yes

Yes, I am truly blessed. My birth mom's family (and my mom) have welcomed me with open arms.

Can't say the same about my birth dad, though. My birth mom only knew his first name and that he was in the air force. Through DNA testing, we found my dad, too. He was in the air force just as my mom said and the first name matches, and his young man photos match my mom's description -- and he was in the right place at the right time to be my dad. And I also look a lot like him, too.

Three separate DNA tests by close relatives all confirm he's the only one who could be my dad. And here's a picture of me and my birth dad's father (my grandpa) at about the same age. Do you see any resemblance?

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But my birth dad denies I even exist. I've also contacted his wife and niece who are fascinated to learn about me, but when they try to tell my dad about me, he gets very angry and says I'm not his. Yet everyone who knows him says he was definitely a "player" with the ladies and the profile of him getting my mom pregnant out of wedlock fits perfectly.

He's also not in as good of health as my mom, so that could also be affecting his recollection.

Joe Fugate​
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splitrock323

Finding family is a great thing

As a fellow adoptee, I too signed up for and completed a DNA test. So far I have found two sisters, and a brother. I found my mom a month too late. One sister and I have turned into good friends. I think I am still a mystery to my other siblings and aunts. This summer will be interesting. I’m so happy you had a great reunion and could get some questions answered. You’re an inspiration in more than Model trains Joe. 

Thomas W. Gasior MMR

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sdcruz

Brilliant! Thanks Joe.

Brilliant!

Thanks Joe.

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James Six

A very sad but exciting story

A very sad but exciting story Joe. My heart goes out to you and your family. God bless you all.

As for me, I knew both of my parents as they raised me until I left home at age 19. I knew my mom's parents well. Her father was my favorite! I always called him Gramps. It is my dad's parents who are the mystery in my family. Dad's dad was born to an Amish family in southeast PA. My dad's mother was conservative Mennonite and passed away when Dad was in junior high school. I know nothing else about her. 

Jim

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jimfitch

Cool story bro!  No really!

Cool story bro!  No really!

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Jim Fitch
northern VA

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Gerard
Great story Joe.  I'm happy for you.

Gerard
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Neil Erickson NeilEr

@joef your story is really compelling to learn more about family  

It seems that I keep learning about my family history as years pass. My grandfather made a bunch of tape recordings that my aunt had converted to digital files and shared with us “younger” folks. He was quite a story teller but one in particular stood out. He traveled with my great-grandmother from their home in Ohio to Chicago to meet his aunt who was a clerk for the UP. That seemed to thrill him and does me, over 100 years later. 

Other distractions include frequent exercise on my bicycle trainer using an iPad app called Zwift. Since Covid it has been really an amazing place to meet others from all over the world. Up until the lockdown I also played the stand up bass with friends and miss that. 

Neil Erickson, Hawai’i 

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